The way we communicate with our horses has multiple modalities from the use of food and devices, to body language, herd psychology and more. They all have value, but research has revealed that communication isn’t just happening within our brains between ours ears, but there’s a level of communication happening that when we understand and apply how it works, fear and anxiety are reduced, trust is deepened and our horses respond in kind. To understand what this communication is and how to apply it we must first understand the research.
Did you know that your brain is like a radio receiver AND transmitter? Research has found that your brain’s neurotransmitters have an energy field range of about 10’ from your body, receiving and sending a vibratory energy frequency (VEF). This is why we can often finish the sentence of a loved one, or our dear one says something we were just thinking – we are sharing our neurotransmitter energy field with them and are on the same vibratory frequency. But what is really fascinating is the neurotransmitters that are in our brains sending and receiving the VEF are not all in our heads! EVERY organ in our body has neurotransmitters, and that includes the skin as the largest organ of our bodies – it’s like a brain in each of our organs and we’re covered in neurotransmitters by our skin too. So think about it, if we can communicate through our brain’s VEF, imagine how we can communicate using our entire body’s VEF? Now put that into terms of horses who have neurotransmitters in their organs and skin too, and they are huge animals. The question begs, “what is your body saying to your horse on a VEF level”, and “how can we use this transmission to improve our communication with our horses”?
Horses need to trust us in order to be safer and calmer around us. For example, say you are trying to work with your horse demonstrating your herd leadership, but your body is sending a message of worry, anxiety, fear or any number of negative messages. How does your body line up with your intention of teaching your horse that you are their herd leader if your body is projecting worry and anxiety? Authenticity is the key!! Being authentic, while aligning your intention is the magical combination to deeper communication and trust between you and your horse. This goes for humans too – you know that feeling when you meet someone who you feel you can’t trust, but can’t put your finger on why? Well, that’s because your body is receiving the message that the person’s intention is not aligned with who they portray themselves to be (authenticity), they are incongruent. Imagine how that must be for horses – we may be feeling “off”, worried about our job or relationship with someone, worried about paying the bills, but we stuff it and go work with our horses. We expect them to respond to our loving gestures and commands, but they seem off and not responding as we wish. What is your body saying vs. your gestures and commands? If you are out of alignment with your intention for your horse vs what is going on in your internal life, your VEF is going to reflect that. Your horse is feeling you are inauthentic, incongruent, so now you are untrustworthy, and what does a horse do when they can’t trust a human – all sorts of unexpected and/or dangerous behaviors.
Horses require authenticity in their herd-leader, so how do we align our intention with what is really going on with our authentic selves? The answer – honesty and awareness – plain and simple. Be honest with yourself and check in with your body to see what you are really feeling and what your VEF is transmitting. For example, when I’m struggling with an issue that is non-horse related I recognize that this is going to reflect when I go to work with my horse. I also recognize my horse is genetically wired to require a herd leader at all times, but I want to be the compassionate herd leader nonetheless, so that requires me being honest about how I feel. Being honest with your horse is to actually verbalize – tell your horse what is going on with you. You’d be amazed what a relief you will feel once you verbalize your troubles to your horse and often this will invoke a sigh from your horse and greater connection between the two of you.
Our words have a VEF too which is why I encourage using your words when around your horse. Tell the truth about how you feel and what is going on. Authenticity -> Aligning Intention-> manifests Trusted Communication when we embrace the understanding that there is a vibratory energy frequency that is talking too.
To learn more about Missy’s Training the Whole Horse® methods & techniques you can watch FREE all of her holistic horse training videos on her website at https://www.missywryn.com/watch-free.
Missy Wryn is an internationally recognized Holistic Natural Horse Trainer and member of the Association of Professional Humane Educators (APHE.org). Missy pioneered Training the Whole Horse® methods on the foundation of DO NO HARM. She is founder of HorseMAREship™, producer of DO NO HARM Productions, and creator of the Holistic Training Halter | Bridle. For more information visit Missy Wryn’s website at MissyWryn.com or call toll free (888) 406-7689
For high res pictures email Info@MissyWryn.com or call (888) 406-7689.
- HearthMath Institute (heartmath.org)
- Goleman, Daniel. Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationship (206, Bantam)
- Spirituality & Health. (March-April 2006) Buhner, Stephen Harrod, HeartMath Inst.